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PART 5

Now my part, and there is no honest version of this without it.

I had four minutes.

Four minutes between putting my hand on that doorframe and sitting down at that table.

I could have knocked the bowl over. It would have taken one movement and a sleeve and nobody would have questioned it for a second.

I could have refused to eat. I have refused food at that table before over less.

I could have stood up and walked out of that house and been in my car inside ninety seconds with the keys in my own bag.

I did none of those things.

I swapped the bowls.

Which means I needed somebody to drink it.

There is no reading of that which is self-defence. Self-defence is the bowl on the floor.

What I did was evidence-gathering, and I used a seventy-nine-year-old woman to do it, and for eleven months I have been describing it to people as instinct.

It was not instinct. Instinct is fast and stupid. This took four minutes and it involved a plan.

And I have to go one further, because there is a thing I have said to exactly one person.

I was not certain she would only be unwell.

I did not know what was in that packet. That is the whole premise of everything I did that afternoon; it is the reason I could not simply accuse him.

Which means I put an unknown quantity of an unknown thing in front of a woman of seventy-nine, and I sat and watched her eat two mouthfuls of it, and I did not stop her.

I have been told, by somebody qualified, that in that state a person is not making that calculation.

I was making it. I remember the calculation. It was: she will be all right and he will not be able to say I imagined it.

And here is why I needed evidence instead of an exit, which is the part underneath the part.

Because I no longer trusted my own head.

Six months of being told I was tired, confused, worrying too much. Six months of a man saying you’ve already asked me that in a kind voice.

It had worked. That is the whole point of it and it had worked completely.

By that Sunday I was a woman who could not be certain she had seen what she had just seen, standing eleven feet from the man who had arranged for that to be true.

So I did not need to escape.

I needed a witness who was not me, and it had to be a witness those people could not dismiss — which meant it had to be one of them.

That is the real reason it was her and not a doctor, and not a policeman, and not a friend I could have driven to in nineteen minutes.

Nobody at that table would have believed a stranger.

They would all believe Nerine.

And the only one I could think of, in four minutes, was to make somebody else’s body say it out loud in front of eleven relatives.

It has been eleven months.

Nerine is alive and she is at home and she is eighty now.

She has given a full account and it is on a record and it does not spare her, and she began it — I am told — by saying that she had wanted the house to stay in the family.

That is the whole motive of a woman who has known me since I was twenty-eight. The house.

Not even for her. For him.

She is eighty now. She has her own place and she was never once going to live in mine.

She did it so that her son would not be the one in that family who ended up with nothing, which is a sentence she has apparently used, and which is about a man of fifty-seven.

There is a version of this where I find that monstrous. There is another one, which I get to about once a fortnight, where I understand it completely and cannot bear it.

She was not protecting a house. She was protecting the story she has been telling about her son since about 1974.

I have seen her twice. Both times were arranged by other people and both were extremely short.

The first was four days after, in a corridor, and she was asleep and I stood at a distance and then left.

I do not know why I went. I have decided it was twenty-one years of Sundays operating on their own, the way a hand goes to a light switch in a house you have moved out of.

The second time, in a hospital corridor, we were alone for about a minute, and I said the only thing I have ever said to her about any of it.

I said: you ate it too.

She did not answer.

There is no answer. I have thought about it a great deal since and I am not sure I said it to be cruel, and I am not sure I did not.

What I know is that I had eleven months to prepare a sentence and that is the one I used.

Four words. Not why. Not he is your son and I was your daughter-in-law for twenty-six years.

You ate it too.

Which is not an accusation at all, when you look at it. It is a man’s arithmetic in a woman’s mouth.

I gave her the one thing I had, which was the fact that the plan had gone wrong, and I have had to accept that what I actually wanted, in that corridor, was for her to know that I had done it to her.

Renwick is not in that house. There is a process and it is slow and it is not finished, and I am not going to write about it beyond one thing.

It did not begin with me.

I did not report anything. Eleven months on, I still have not made a statement about that Sunday to anybody in an official capacity, which surprises people.

It began in a hospital, that night, with a doctor and an eighty-year-old woman and a question about what she had eaten.

She answered it. Straight away, apparently, while her son was still in the corridor.

That is the only thing Nerine has done in this entire account that I have not been able to find a cold explanation for.

He rang eleven times in the first fortnight and then stopped, which I am told is normal and which felt, at the time, like the loudest thing that has ever happened to me.

He wrote to me in the March. Four pages, handwritten, in an envelope that came through a solicitor.

I read the first one.

It is entirely about how tired he was.

Eleven paragraphs, and I only read one page, and on that page the word exhausted appears twice and my name appears once.

He is describing the six months. Not mine. His.

I have not read the other three pages and I am not going to, and I have not thrown them away either, which my sister thinks is a mistake.

How hard it was. How he had not slept. How nobody understood the position he had been put in.

A man wrote four pages to the woman whose soup he had been interfering with since the June, and the subject of those pages is how tiring it had been to do it.

I did not confront him at that table and I have not confronted him since, and the thing I actually did — the only genuinely useful thing in this whole account — took forty dollars and eleven days.

I rang the county recorder on the Tuesday morning at eleven minutes past nine and requested a certified copy of the deed.